Beautiful Women with Idiot Men

First of all, don't worry, this isn't one of those "poor me, we nice guys always get the shaft" posts. I'm not looking for pity, just sharing an insight.

There seems to be a surplus of attractive, intelligent women dating or married to idiots, assholes and knuckle-draggers. The obvious reason is that "women only go for bastards". Well, I've been thinking about this one for a little while and think the obvious answer is the wrong answer.

Having spoken with both Rob and Andreas (many of those who know me know these two as well so credit where credit is due) I think this needs to go out into distribution. Nice guys, listen up!

So last week I met someone whom I'm interested in (no details, except to say I'm trying to get her number as we speak, I need to work through her friends for that so I'm sure all kinds of background checks are being done). My initial thought, which kept me from saying anything when I was actually with her and could speak to her was, "Yeah, but she's way out of my league...". I've done that many times over the years... usually considered myself not good enough to even ask.

Well, this week I've been thinking about that. What I've come up with is so what? There is no harm in asking. What the worst thing that could happen? She says no and my life continues as it has been? Well, isn't that where I am now? Where's the downside to that?

Note: I suppose the actual worst thing that could happen is that we could hit it off, get married and on out wedding night she could kill me. I don't think that's likely, I'm a better judge of character than that (at least a bit).

I shared that with Rob on Tuesday and he agreed. He also added the following (I'm paraphrasing): "Most nice guys are intimidated by beautiful women, think exactly what you think and stay quiet. Only the idiots and assholes actually ask so they're the ones who win in the end."

Andreas backed that up today with a quote from Cameron Diaz about how she can't find a date.

I guess this is all true.

Now, assignment time. Nice guys like me - Forget this "out of my league" shit and if you're interested, say something! I know it's hard. Believe it or not it's just as hard at 34 as it is at 17... I'm sure it won't be easier when I'm 68 either... What's the worst that can happen? You get shot down? OH WELL! You can't win unless you enter the game.

Idiots, assholes and knuckle-draggers (you know who you are) - Just crawl back under your damp rock. It's our turn now.